do you ever feel confined?

by - 10/02/2015 07:31:00 pm

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Sometimes, I think we live inside a cage, not a house. And the prison bars are so blurred that we mistake them for door frames.

It's like, we're living life in the same way, aren't we? Society cookie-cuts us into the perfect mold. We go to school and we try to get the best grades. Then comes college. Jobs. Retirement. Regret.

Not only our lives, but our thoughts are carefully controlled. We think intelligence is getting straight A's, or being good at maths or physics. We define success as having a nice house and car and having lots of money. We see opportunities as the amount of jobs you can take, depending on intelligence and leading to success.

Yesterday during dinner I had an argument with myself. We have the choice to choose our own path over the status quo, don't we? Or, we have the freedom to choose.

But if we call that freedom, then it's the freedom of someone with a gun to their head, choosing between rebelling or following orders. We're born and raised to follow the leader, to trust society to know better than us, because the alternative is the chance that we'll end up in the dregs of the world, bypassed and forgotten.

I'm not sure which is the illusion anymore: freedom, or the cage.

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But you know what the scariest thing is?

We prefer the cage.

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  1. I think I am in love with this post because it is unbelievable how accurately and eloquently you have depicted life. Just 30 minutes ago I was talking to my dad about becoming a surgeon and work life balance. I'm 15. It's crazy how I seem to have life planned out through school and grades and success meaning money, and the only plausible solution I can find for gaining all these while also having purpose is to help people. Wouldn't it be perfect to travel and think and expand for our whole lives, if only the fear of not having an acceptable job leading to homelessness didn't exist.

    -M
    The Life of Little Me

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    1. I know, right? When did this become our lives? I wish we could do as you said, go anywhere we want and do whatever we want. But fear stops us again and again. Because we love being told what to do and conforming. We have more opportunities but at the same time we have less. :(

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  2. I teared up while reading your post. T.T

    I have already graduated from High School and my life right now is a blur. Everyday passes so quickly and I feel like I've been chasing random spurts of dreams and inspirations and not getting anywhere. I want to do so many things because I love them, but at the same time, I tell myself to snap out of it and search for higher paying temp jobs, or take more college entrance exams, or start my own business... to basically create more opportunities for myself to appear more intelligent in order to gain success (exactly what you said!!).

    Lovely post; please don't stop blogging!!

    ~Ash
    apieceofmysky.blogspot.com

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    1. Oh no! I hope you're okay now. D: Wow, that's really interesting to hear, because I'm still in high school. And we always tell ourselves that university expands our opportunities, and it definitely does in our world. But it's ridiculous that all of us are expected to know what we're going to do for the rest of our lives. And decide that when we're in high school. I know some friends who are in uni and don't know which direction to go in...and it's just taking up so much of our time.

      Thank you. :)

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  3. I'M PRINTING THIS OUT AND TAPING THIS ON EVERY HUMAN I SEE. :')
    This is truly the truth and we could change this.
    Slowly but steady.

    anna | annaish

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    1. YES ;)
      I really, really hope so.

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  4. Wow, so much to think about here.

    Agh, I hate decisions!

    And I hate cages.

    Sometimes I wonder if I just ended choosing between different cages. The ones other people make for me. Or the one I limit myself in.

    I hate cages. And somehow freedom is scary.

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    1. Oh my gosh. You just did my post in three sentences. What you just said was perfect.

      I hate cages too. But I think we're stuck in a cage from the beginning of our existence. I suppose you've got to pick the roomiest cage, or find freedom. :(

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  5. I don't even know where this crossed over into a strange form of prose poetry but the last line really hit me in the gut. This is a really great question about societal constructs and whether we can ever have the courage to break down -- really brings to mind 1984's so-called truths. How different are our own social expectations? Fabulously insightful post!

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    1. We don't have the courage, yes! But the ones who did are the ones who were great. Steve Jobs, Michael Jackson, Michael Jordan, Mark Zuckerberg...Muhammed, Jesus, Mother Teresa. And we never ask enough questions. Sometimes faith can be dangerous. Thanks, Alyssa!

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  6. This seems to be a really interesting way to describe the question of free will versus determination. And it's so funny because we so often say we have free will, a choice, a chance to be different, but your point is that we, in fact, often fall into this pattern of determination whether it's real or not... And wouldn't it be scary to have free will and waste our chance with it?

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    1. Thank you! We do say that, we say it so much that we start to believe it. And it's not that we're ignorant but rather scared, like you said, of making pariahs of ourselves and wasting our chance—although we're also wasting it by not taking chances at all. Brilliant, insightful comment. :)

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  7. I love how eloquently you write! The last two lines really got me there. They kinda remind me of the Party's slogans in Orwell's 1984 - Freedom is Slavery. It's too easy to just swallow the ideals the society gives us.

    http://thatcrazygiraffe.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thank you! And yes yes! I was thinking of that when I wrote this. It's far too easy, but does that mean it's what we really want? I hope we are all able to answer that question at any given crossroad in life.

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  8. I can relate to this on a spiritual level. well done.

    princessfaithm.blogspot.com

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